Every child is different and every parenting style is different -- there's no right or wrong. So why is there so much competition...and pressure....and stress? In my opinion, I feel it's because every mom struggles. That's what it comes down to. No one knows what they're doing, no one has all the answers, and no one is an expert. We all have to figure it out on our own. And quite frankly, we are all stressed out and exhausted sometimes. Therefore, when we excel at something, we feel the need to tell the world (and rightfully so! You go Mama!!). But at the same time of your progress and success through a rough milestone, realize another Mom could be right smack in the middle of it. Be positive, be encouraging, and be helpful. Please do NOT immediately tell them how wonderful you and your child are, that your child went through something with ease, and that you are the perfect parent. That is not helpful.
Weirdly, without even waiting for a response, they throw their personal information at me...as if I was the one that asked them the questions. For example, the other day, I went to Trader Joe's in the Cape and a woman gave Conor and Caden a double-take. When she saw them, she asked if they were twins. I of course said yes and that they were 16 months old. She said she had seven-year-old twins and she nursed them for two years. That's the first bit of information she gave me! Not her name, not their names, just that they were nursed for the first two years of their lives. Isn't that kind of weird? I mean, it's lovely to talk and share stories with other Moms, but really??? How about "hello my name is......" first. Do you agree??
In other news...our Cape house finally has grass! Here's a current pic of the house / front yard with our hydrangeas we transplanted from Jim's Grampa Phelan.
All for now...thanks for listening to that. I feel better! :)